Design your life one decision at a time

Rather than wait for emotions to change, I change the mechanics that lead to it.

Photo by Brandon Mowinkel on Unsplash

I’m making a decision – some are indifferent to it, some find it brave and others might even be offended by it. What can be so polarising? Social media. I’ve been dealing with a lot of noise, a lot of triggers to emotions that I don’t particularly like. So following my own advice to design my own life – I’m deciding to go off social media for a good while…going to try till the end of the year.

“But but but?!” you may say, let’s consider.

What about your friends?!

A few of my good friends aren’t even on social media! I see them in person, in the real world, and it is sooo much richer. In some ways I see social media interactions like empty calories, a few Likes and Hearts. They don’t actual carry any true weight.

True friendships, for me anyways, are built on sharing bread, cake and coffee, not shared 0s and 1s.

What about your work?!

For someone who’s got a business with big picture intentions of being able to do it digitally (i.e. via some co-working space in some breezy sunny country), how will I make connections? How will I market myself? How will people find me?

Well people, i.e. my clients, aren’t supposed to find me, I’m supposed to find them! This is where I need to stop doing busywork of getting social media followers and actually find genuine clients. People hang out somewhere in the real world.

I’m not one for competing with shallow work – there are plenty of people with thousands and millions of followers. I’m not after followers, I’m after genuine potential clients, genuine people who want to design their life. An inspirational quote or two isn’t going to do it. It’s going to take steady work and deep work (check out Cal Newport’s book – I’m swiftly soaking it all up!).

What about the apocalypse?!

I don’t need to be told that it’s going to be the end of the world. Anything worth me knowing (e.g. food festivals) I’ll seek out proactively, rather than reactively. Anyways, it’s an experiment, I can change the decision if it no longer serves me.

Rather than wait for emotions to change, I change the mechanics that lead to it (see my previous post on habit formations). I want to feel less overwhelmed, less scattered and confused, so I remove the triggers.

It’s going to take deep curiosity – why we do the things we do and major clear outs to welcome fresh energy.

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