When reactive, put first things first
Being annoyed is linked with being reactive, where your day is dictated by outside, by other people’s agenda, by other people’s emails (more on managing inboxes next week).This video on The Glass Jar shows you how it is possible to fit everything in, everything!, when you put the important things first.
The Glass Jar is a reminder to prioritise you first. It may seem selfish but it can be the opposite because you are responsible for your own needs, rather than depending on others to meet them. Rather than grow resentful at having your needs unmet (remember how mismatched expectations lead to be annoyed?), recognise when and where you need to assert yourself. Be explicit in what you need to do for yourself first so that you can be there for others later. Otherwise you risk exploding with frustration, burning them and yourself. You are more likely to feel more abundant with time and energy for others when you’ve dealt with your own key priorities first.
When reactive, remember your purpose and meaning
What are two key priorities for this week that fuel your purpose?
The 80:20 rule states that 80% of the outcome comes from 20% of the input (e.g. 80% of my weight frustration comes from 20% of food derived from crisps, chocolate, cake…I digress).
What are the key 20%, the key tasks or relationships that lead to 80% of your fulfilment? These are the things to prioritise first. These are the things that get us out of winter blues because they fire us up.
If you missed last week’s post, click here to read how remembering what’s really in our control helps with dealing with being Annoyed.
Next week – On being Stressed, how do you focus on what’s truly important so that you don’t feel overwhelmed?